Mirrors shouldn’t be the enemy of body-image. You choose to provide language and meaning to what you see in the mirror. As soon as you see yourself, you might experience a rush of words and emotions. Allowing your own thoughts to validate your beauty and who you are without the opinions of others, puts beauty in the eyes of the most important beholder: you.
It’s easy to collect all the negativity surrounding beauty and compile an ever-changing image of the ideal. You should always aspire to be beautiful in your own right, unaffected by whatever standards other people set.
Shaping the right mentality all comes from what you’re feeding your mind with. If you’re constantly consulting twitter for its views on beauty, you’ll form an unbalanced concept of what it means to be beautiful. This isn’t a strategy exclusively for plus size women, but a lifestyle choice for anyone who’s tired of being told that they’re too much or too little of any one quality.
As signifiers of meaning and emotion, words carry a great deal of power, and our desire to construct who we are with them gives them even greater strength. Simply changing what we say to ourselves can change who we are. The next time you have a moment, say the words, “I am the architect of my life; I build its foundation and choose its contents.” For something a bit less abstract just say the words, “I am beauty” or “I am confidence.”
Embrace the Topic
Understand the climate of beauty without being combative. We live in a patriarchal world where all things male are the benchmark by which we are judged; a reality that’s changing, but not fast enough. However, by attempting to understand why these old-school male-orientated attitudes exist, we can take back much of their influence; knowing where people’s views originate from, especially if they’re flawed, will give you the power and help make you an educated, independent thinker.
Fill yourself with positivity and knowledge and you’ll have a greater appreciation of the beauty staring back at you the next time you’re in front of a mirror.